The
helplessness that you feel as a NICU parent is like no other. As a parent you
know that you need to be strong for your children, but no one ever really
mentions that helplessness you feel that accompanies it. We try to be
strong everyday and walk into the NICU with a smile on our faces. We hold our
precious babies, I wake up every three hours (day and night) to pump food (life
juice as we call it) for my girls, we have learned how to stimulate our
daughter when she DESATs so low and needs assistance to recover. Yet as we do
all these things we remain helpless. This is a fight that we can’t do anything
about. Our girls have been tremendous fighters, and continue to be so. But, I
can’t help but be overwhelmed with sadness and frustration for them. Haylee is
doing great and should be coming home soon. Each time we think it might happen,
something occurs and they extend her time. Even though she will be released,
once home her struggle still continues. She will be home on a monitor to alarm
us if she at any point stops breathing, in which case we must intervene. All
things considered she is doing great. She had a rough start, being born 2
months early, but has prevailed.
Rylee on
the other hand continues to struggle. She is our little "mini" fighter. She was
born as a micro preemie, weighing 2 lbs and 15 oz. Her fight has been a tough
one, full of many successes and setbacks. Though born small, she is full of
fight! Every time we walk into the NICU we never know which direction she will
be going. We relish in the steps forward
and grieve for the steps back. As of this morning her DESATs have continued, so
much so that she is back on oxygen and having chest x-rays. Luckily, it tends
to occur only during feeds and should get better with time and maturity. Though
this offers some reassurance I can’t begin to explain the heart wrenching
feeling of feeding your daughter, and then having to revive her when she stops
breathing and can’t come back on her own. This is again where strength and
helplessness combine into one. We know what to do to bring her back, but having
to do it because she can’t is very tough. Holding her after she eats and
hearing her fuss and cry because of the pain of the reflux break our hearts. We
wish we could take it away and make it better for her. In time this will change
and she will get better, and for that we are eternally grateful. We are blessed
that we have two beautiful daughters, who given tough circumstances will come
out of this OK. We cherish that fact and are truly grateful for it. But in the
here and now it is just hard. As a mother I don’t want them to experience pain,
and I want to fight these battles for them, to make it better and I cannot.
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